I’ve recently been observing the pressures and expectancies society and peers place on teenagers regarding relationship statuses. It is uncommon these days that you might find a young teenage girl who hasn’t been involved with or is currently in a relationship or ‘thing’ with a boy. It is typically normal and exciting going through adolescence and having ‘crushes’ or ‘going out’ with someone you fancy, but these days it seems to be a lot more than that.
She’s the girl you’ve suddenly found yourself aching to be like. You don’t know when or how it happened, but one day you looked at her and said to yourself “Wow. She’s really got it together.” You know the girl. She grows herbs in her garden, finds the time to participate in that 5K Mud Run you’ve wanted to do, reads books you’ve thought about buying, and works full time just like you do. What gives? And HOW is she still single?
Today I talk about ways in which I make adjustments and choices in my life to be the best person I can be. When we work on self transformation we can have the life we dream of whilst also affecting beautiful change around us.
I love animals, always have and always will. It doesn't matter to me whether they are pets or wild creatures or the poor animals suffering in testing labs for the products we use and farms where they become our food and milk we drink. Animals need and should be treated with respect, dignity and love no matter what. Animals have feelings. Animals have emotions. Animals feel pain. Anyone who says different is lying and using it as an excuse to for their behavior.
Recently a few things happened which really stirred my emotions for animals well-being and treatment. First I witnessed a dog beating in the community where my mom lives and I was absolutely horrified and attempted to intervene, to the extreme dismay and anger of the man. But I was not going to continue letting him beat his dog because it got off of its chain and sat outside an establishment he was in, waiting for its owner.
All the dog wanted was love, but instead it got something else. The police were called, by my wife, the man got a verbal warning and that was it. Days later I watched a program on the treatment of animals at dairy and slaughter farms across the country. Disgusting, Heartbreaking. And the fact that the defenders of this kind of abuse view it as not real and what we see are just rare cases of mistreatment. What a total and utter lie.
Human abuse of animals extends into the wild also. Many don’t hunt to put food on their table, but instead to take antler and horn trophies, furs, tusks, ivory, organs and the list goes on. Humans also fear any wild animals that are a threat to us or our livelihood. These animals are predators in the wild and humans being the biggest predators of them all fear those animals that may potentially harm us: Sharks, wolves, coyotes, cougars, bears, snakes, alligators, crocodiles, lions, etc. No matter what animal it is, humans have a ‘reason’ to kill them.
The human abuse of animals across the world has become so out of control it is truly sad. We even pollute our planet with no regards to the species extinctions we are creating and what long lasting effects that has on us and the delicate balance of the environment. Humans are supposed to be the most intelligent of all living things on Earth, yet most often we act more barbaric than the creatures we kill and abuse.
Does it give a person a high, or a sense of power to beat an animal into submission or kill them? Does it give pleasure to watch an animal suffer with no way to protect themselves? Aren’t we supposed to be the species that knows better, understands right from wrong?
Yet daily we act out in more barbaric ways towards animals than any animal ever could. What they do is out of instincts while we should be acting out with complicated thought and decision making processes. No matter how a human mistreats any animal, it is wrong, and if a person shows no emotion for the deed they have committed then they have no conscious, empathy, compassion or love. Wild animals have at least a chance of escape, but pets and those in the food/product industry have no way out.
Pets simply love unconditional and it makes me angry that anyone who can’t take care of an animal, or isn't going to treat them with respect and love has one. It just makes no sense how or why someone can treat living creatures with so much disdain and hatred. Whenever I see meat in the store, or at a restaurant, or anywhere, my mind always go to what that animal suffered through so a human can have a meal. We never think about it and don’t care as long as our bellies get full. Luckily for animals in the food industry, current exposure of the abuse has caused many, especially young adults and teens, to adopt vegetarian or vegan lifestyles. Unfortunately many states are trying to implement laws that make it illegal to secretly film this horrific practice going on at these “meat and milk” factories.
I could go on forever about this subject. It is something I care about deeply and hurts me to the core w
A little more than two years ago I met my fiancee on a first date like dozens of others I'd had before. We met through an online dating service, the way many people do these days. The part of the story I love to tell, however, is that she had signed up for this site just as an experiment. She was unaware that when you get a membership to a site like that, you have to actively cancel the subscription or they renew it automatically. After her trial month was over, she noticed she'd been charged for a second month and was furious. She'd only wanted one. It was during that second month that we began to e-mail back and forth and eventually went on our first date. If the site hadn't renewed her automatically, we never would have met.
Tonight I talk about my own journey with this and what it means to find clarity. Clarity means living the best life we can lead, the life we desire and a life we can manifest. Connecting to the deeper levels of our being helps us to find this clarity which in turn opens up pathways to leading the life we dream of.
Remember that divorce is just one small step on your big life journey.
I’ve been through a divorce. I was 28 and most of my friends were just getting married. Going through a divorce was absolutely a challenging time in my life, but I am grateful for the lessons and the journey.
If you’re smack in the middle of transition, separation or divorce, it would help to have someone who could guarantee that everything would work out. If only we could all have an intuitive guide to guarantee that just around the corner were amazing relationships, peace and happiness. As Wayne Dyer says, “you are exactly where you are supposed to be” - this gave me great peace. I knew that there were new adventures waiting and wonderful people for me to meet. If there is one thing I learned, it’s that self-esteem must take charge during this time. If you do have children, it is even more important that you take time for you and surround yourself with incredible people to lean on.