I’ve been lucky enough to have some amazing friends over the past ten years. Some from school, some from college and others from travelling. But I think we can all agree it takes a lot of time and effort to make it last. It needs coffee dates, phone calls, nights out, sleepovers and long talks to make it special. Over the years I have tried to make an effort with my friendships because they are very important to me. But sometimes, it just doesn’t work out with a friend anymore.
I had this friend, who I felt was like a sister to me. We had so much in common and had a great time together. But after a few months I noticed that drama continuously followed her wherever she went. If I talked to someone she didn’t like, she’d chew me out. If I didn’t agree with her on a particular subject, then she wouldn’t talk to me. All the bad-talking the judging of other people began to take its toll on me and I began to not like my ‘best’ friend. The bad-mouthing got worse as the months went on and after a while, I felt I just couldn’t do it anymore. She wasn’t good for me and and I felt awful when I was around her. So we decided to end the friendship.
It took years to finally get over the friendship. At the beginning I was always afraid I would run into her or we would have an awkward encounter. But we never did. I knew I did the right thing to end the friendship but there was always a small part of me that missed her. It felt like I lost a sister. It had such an effect on me that I became wary of my other friendships. But I learned over the years to stay far away from all that ‘drama’. It was never worth it.
Recently, I‘ve been lucky enough to meet up with my ex friend. Before I saw her I was terrified. I had no idea what she would be like after so long. I was shaking like a leaf, anticipating how awkward and uncomfortable it would be. As soon as I saw her, we shared a big hug. We didn’t talk about the past, but about how our lives were now. We had a good, long talk and then we parted ways. People ask me why I wanted to meet with her. It was because I needed closure. I hated that I had these negative memories whenever I thought of her. I wanted to be free of all the negative karma. Now she and I have nothing but good feelings and we wish each other the best. I hope this helps people who have had to break up with a friend.
Catherine is a psychology graduate, with a love of singing, acting and dancing. Loves writing for
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